What people think internalised biphobia is:
- inability to be proud of your bisexuality
What internalised biphobia is in addition to that:
- being convinced you’re not bisexual enough
- constantly questioning what if you’re actually gay or straight
- feeling like you don’t count as bisexual/LGBT anymore because of your current partner’s gender
- feeling like you need to prove you’re “really bisexual” by sleeping with/dating people of different genders
- feeling like you’re not a full and equal member of the LGBT community unless you’re in a same sex relationship
- feeling like any issues you might face because of your sexual orientation aren’t real or don’t count because bisexuals only have it “half as bad”
- prioritising every other issue over bisexual activism because you don’t believe bisexuals deserve support, resources, respect or care as much as other minorities
- feeling guilty for being monogamous because you think it takes away from your “bisexual credentials”. feeling guilty for being non-monogamous or promiscuous because you think you’re reinforcing the stereotypes
- being ashamed of liking a particular gender because you feel it makes you less feminist/less queer/less pure. trying to minimise or apologise for attraction to a certain gender
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being uncomfortable with the word bisexual, thinking it’s shameful, dirty or “just doesn’t sound right”. being scared of, ashamed of or uncomfortable with saying “i’m bisexual” out loud. using euphemism or avoiding the word “bisexual”.
- wondering if you just convinced yourself you’re bi for attention and questioning the validity of your attraction and experiences
- feeling like you’re deceiving your partners and you need to apologise for/minimise your bisexuality
- thinking bisexuality is not as valid, important, political or radical as some other sexual orientations
i think anyone who says tht a bi man & a bi woman in a relationship r basically the same as a straight couple have never put any thought into how bisexuality challenges preconcieved dynamics and the gender roles usually assumed in m/f relationships.